Please Do Not Be Mad At Me

Kevin Willett says that in business as in life, compromise works for everyone.

I received an email this weekend from a person asking to meet me for coffee. When I told him that I could meet him in about six weeks, he emailed me back saying that if I didn’t want to meet him, I should just say so and not lie to him about my schedule being so full. I then made it worse and told him that if he wanted to talk sooner then we could schedule a video chat. Sadly, that just made it worse. His response was ‘what are you too important to meet me in person’?

Please understand that sometimes the people you want to meet with are super busy, and they are not trying to hurt your feelings by asking you if they can video chat with you instead.

Time management has become my biggest challenge. When I combine teaching with hosting twenty networking events, I often struggle with having time to do everything I need to.  Because of this I do have to think twice before I agree to drive more than 30 minutes to meet someone in person. Please understand that I am not trying to hurt your feelings, I am simply trying to grow my business. So rather than get upset about it, how about you offer to meet half way. That would be a big help and start off a business relationship on the right foot.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

I Just Hired Someone to Do That

Kevin Willett says to be respectful when meeting potential referral partners

One of the things that amazes me is how often people will meet someone at a networking event and proceed to tell them that they just used someone else who does what they do.

It happened last week. I had someone go on and on while talking to a realtor and a mortgage person about the great experience her child had purchasing a home and that she would recommend the realtor and mortgage person that her child used to everyone. Would you like to have been that realtor and mortgage rep listening to this lady tell you how great someone else in your field was?

Sadly, this happens all the time. Nobody wants to hear about how great their competition is. If you are doing this, please stop. When you tell the person how much you like their competition and how you refer everyone to them, the chance of them referring anyone to you is low.  Don’t waste their time or yours if you are not open to new business relationships. More importantly, don’t insult them.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

It Is Time to Leave Your Tribe

Kevin Willett says expanding your affiliations increases the reach of you business

I meet a lot of people who only belong to one networking group. When I ask them why they haven’t tried other groups, they usually say things like “I feel safe where I am”, or “I am comfortable there”. That is OK, but I think you are missing a chance to grow as a person and as an entrepreneur.

I see people join groups based on gender, religion and education, and I do think that makes sense and that it is a good starting point. However, you must ask yourself, is the group providing you with enough business to reach your goals, if not then it is time to leave your tribe.

I was speaking to a friend last week that is very involved in his school’s alumni group because he knows everyone, and he enjoys the pride of being a member. However, the more we spoke the more he admitted that he wasn’t getting the quality or quantity of referrals he needed.

There is nothing wrong with joining groups because your share a bond with the members but focusing your efforts on those groups may be holding back your growth.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

How Much Is Too Much

Kevin Willett says helpful/educational posts are better than a sales pitch.

I had coffee with a friend last week and she asked me my opinion about promoting her business on her personal Facebook page. She was concerned about upsetting her family and friends by posting too often about her business.

I have a few thoughts on this subject. First, please understand that your friends and family do not see every one of your posts unless they go on your wall and read them. Secondly, I think it is always about adding value and educating people. My friend sells skin care products. If she does a FB post saying ‘hey if you suffer from dry skin in the cold weather, you should consider using these types of products’, to me she is sharing knowledge that can help me and I do not see anything wrong with that.

I am not a fan of people sharing posts saying that their upline has challenged them to find 4 people to host parties this month. I am also not a fan of posting the same message on your wall every day that basically says buy my stuff or use my services. These posts are not helpful to the reader.

I just believe it is more effective to educate people about your goods or services before you try to sell to them.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

Do Not Keep Score

Kevin Willett says communication is key when trying to build new business relationships

One of the common challenges I see with networking is that people tend to keep score. I hear people say, “I gave that guy three referrals and he has never given me one back”. If you are keeping score, please stop. Networking does not always work that way. I have been running Friends of Kevin for eleven years and there are many types of businesses that people have never asked me about. I also find that referrals can come in bunches. The person that you sent the referral to might not come across a referral for you right away, so please be patient.

I met with a friend recently and when we spoke about referrals, he said his goal is to find the best person for the job, whether the person ever sent him a referral or not. I simply love his approach.

We are all trying to build referral sources to grow our businesses. The key to this goal is to communicate and be honest. I see people try to build relationships by sending referrals. Then they become upset when they do not receive any in return. My question is always the same, did you ask them if they were open to exchanging referrals? Some people are happy with their existing relationships and are not open to adding new people. So please take the time to ask. As always communication is the key.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

Do It Anyway

Kevin Willett says the more you challenge yourself to do the easier it becomes

I was speaking to a woman at my networking event and I told her that I think Facebook live would be amazing for her business. She smiled and said “yes, it is part of my marketing plan going forward”. I smiled and asked “how long has it been part of your plan? Why don’t you do your first Facebook live tomorrow?” That did not go over well at all. She said she is not comfortable doing it. I asked if I could tell her a secret? The secret is most people are not comfortable doing it, but we do it anyway. You cannot let that fear stop you from doing what you need to do to grow your business. It really does get easier the more you do it. I remember the first time I did it, I was scared! Now I don’t even think about it. I do it because it helps me grow my business. Each time I post a video I am having new people connect with me who are interested in what I do and in coming to events.

I am challenging people to do one Facebook live video this week. Stop over thinking it. If you say or do something that you don’t like, simply delete the video. It is really that easy.

Some of my friends would rather blog than record a video. If you are blogging, why not add video content to your blog to see if it increases the views of your posts?

I have friends tell me that they don’t watch Facebook live. That’s ok but it’s not about you it’s about your clients and future clients and what they like.

Be sure to tag me on your first Facebook live post so that I can check it out.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

Hug or No Hug

Kevin Willett says the hugging culture is nice, but in business there is a time and place for it.

I tend to hug everyone I meet, and I have learned it is not a great idea. There are people who simply do not want to be hugged. It is a horrible feeling when you hug someone, and you feel their whole body get tight and you know they are saying ‘why is this guy hugging me’. Please be cautious of this because it may be costing you business.

I read an article recently that suggested that you let the lady take the lead when it comes to hugging. I am not sure I agree with that, because I have a lot of male friends that really don’t like being hugged, by a male or female.

If you are not sure if you should hug someone or not, then the answer is you shouldn’t. I ended up in a weird situation recently. I had a woman asked me why I did not hug her. She noticed I hugged two other women in her industry, so her conclusion was that I liked them better than her.  I must admit that floored me. I did not realize the message I was sending her.

Hugging people in a business setting can be very confusing. It is much easier to simply shake hands to make sure that you are not sending the wrong message.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

It’s as Simple as Wishing Someone a Happy Birthday

Kevin Willett agrees that little gestures can go a long way.

Last week I received my daily LinkedIn recap email and I noticed that it was a friend’s birthday. This guy always goes out of his way to endorse me on LinkedIn, so I wanted to take a moment to thank him and wish him a happy birthday. He sent me back the nicest email I’ve ever received, thanking me for taking the time to wish him a happy birthday. I have to be honest, I was having a super stressful day, but his email made me realize that everything was going to be okay. So take the time to wish your friends a happy birthday. It just might make your day.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

What Will You Be Wearing

Kevin Willett says when in doubt about dress code, just ask

I know this tip seems silly and you may be asking yourself if I have run out of tips, but, every now and then this does come up. Last week I met a guy for coffee and he showed up wearing a suit, because that was how I was dressed when we met at my networking event. He was a little upset with me because I was wearing jeans and bright orange sneakers for this coffee meeting. He said the only reason he wore his suit was because he thought I would be wearing one. The meeting got off on the wrong foot and never recovered from him feeling like I slighted him by dressing casually. Again, I know this tip may seem silly, but when in doubt message the person and say that you will be dressed casually, and they should feel free to dress the same way. Now of course you can never go wrong being overdressed. You can always remove your tie in jacket if you like, but you cannot make your jeans and a polo shirt turn into a suit and tie.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events

What Happens the First Time That You Go to a Networking Event

Kevin Willett says not to expect clients or business growth after one networking event.

Often the first time that you go to a networking event nothing happens regarding finding new clients to grow your business. This will often discourage people and make them want to stop attending networking events.

Please understand that it takes time to build relationships and get people to know, like and trust you.  I find that most people want to get to know you before they are willing to connect you with their friends and clients.

We have worked hard to build our business and when we recommend you to our clients, we are saying that we trust you and that they should too. If something goes wrong, it may harm my relationship with my client, so I am careful about whom I want to recommend.

To me there are two types of referrals. The first is when you know someone is looking for a service and you say; I met Kevin at a networking event once, he seems ok, you should call him he might be able to help. That, my friends, is a super weak referral. The chance of that person calling is pretty low. With the second type, you reach out and tell the person how great I am and send my number to them and send their information to me, so that I can also call them. In the second case, you are telling them that you are personally recommending me and taking the steps to connect us to try your best to help both of us. This is the type of referral that most of us want.

By only attending once, you are failing to build a relationship and making a huge assumption that the person will remember you sometime in the future when they need your services. Take the time to let everyone know, like and trust you.

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Kevin Willett is the Author of One Connection How you can grow your business  (and change the world) one connection at a time. The business networking book is available on Amazon. Purchase One Connection on Amazon

Kevin is also the CEO of the Friends of Kevin Networking Group  and the New England B2B Networking Group. Please connect with him on social media to hear about his upcoming business networking events